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#Sexual predators how to

#Sexual predators how to

This site has been underwritten by a grant from the Laura Daly Foundation of Palm Beach County, Florida.Ĭopyright © 2008 - 2010. The 'secret' is the key component of this disturbing relationship, one that is a cornerstone of a child sexual abusers success and survival. And the child, being a child, believes them. They do this by keeping photographs, warning of the embarrassment to the child and family should anyone find our about what has happened by blaming the child for initiating it by rewarding the child with gifts and outings by telling the child that disclosure would break up the family structure that the sexual abuse is a demonstration of their ‘love’ for the child. They encourage the child to understand that the behavior be kept a secret – just between them. The 'secret.' As already mentioned recurrent abusers rarely hurt the child as that would encourage disclosure. Their biggest problem is not getting the child, it's getting rid of the child when they become too old for them and their interest in them wanes. Predators are masters at building relationships. They also woo the parents to be accepted and trusted with the children. They're so good at what they do that parents never suspect their intentions. They often choose as their victims children who have problems communicating with their parents those whose parents don’t pay enough attention to them. What the abuser is doing is replacing the parent’s role of affection and attention. Gifts, flattery, play, attention, all go into the mix. They ‘court’ the child the way adults court each other in a romantic relationship. Many abusers have multiple concurrent victims and, if left to run their life course un-arrested, some will have had hundreds if not thousands of victims in their lifetime. Of security in letting the predator have access to theirĪn important element in the grooming process is the selection of a victim. Predators also groom the parents to lull them into a sense (most of us do) some have a need to defy their parents.Īttracting these children is referred to as 'grooming.' Their elders they have a need for attention and affection These children's characteristics: they are naturally curious many areĮasily led by adults particularly when brought up to respect Them ideal victims from the offender’s point of view. Ĭhildren in general have certain characteristics that make Grooming: how predators and abusers choose their victims. Under the guise of dating, marriage or being ‘good to the Predators’ immense opportunity to have access to children Particular red flag are single parent families which offer These people are child sex abusers but many child sexĪbusers choose these professions for access to children. Police, child care workers, therapists, teachers. They are fathers, mothers, uncles, aunts,įriends, doctors, soccer coaches, clergy, boy-scout leaders, They live in plain sight among us sometimes in What is a distinctive feature in their behavior is their lack of conscience.Ĭontrary to popular belief, predators do not often skulkĪround playgrounds in dirty raincoats. They key word isĪll three are dangerous to children all the time.

The child or mother and assault the child to hurt the mother For example, when theyĪre left alone with a child, they’re drunk, they’re angry at He or she enjoys having sex with adults and have sex withĬhildren when the opportunity arises. They have a distinct sexual preference for children. Kinds of predators are called preferential meaning that 'The Secret' below and on how homepage here. While ensuring that they do not disclose the abuse - see Including recruiting victims – referred to as ‘grooming’ –Īnd retaining them in an ongoing pattern of sexual abuse These are generally maleĪnd have a distinct pattern to their predatory behavior, They have no interest in having sex with adults, onlyĬhildren, usually pre-pubescent. Paying for viewing or collecting child pornography which is a serious victim-exploiting crime. They get into trouble when they act on their impulses and, for example, start This in itself does not make them criminals. Pedophiles have a sexual preference for children.